It’s easy to answer that one. Right? – We think about our loved one, becoming a part of his/her skin and body… emptying our minds and giving ourselves 100%… it’s like another kind of meditation… and sincerity shows – everybody knows it.
It’s more difficult to answer what not to think about and to actually follow that.
I will tell you in a minute why my example started with massage. Allow me first to tell you a story (a concern) of one of the people I’m working on with Yoga. That person is a wonderful and devoted practitioner. I hope she doesn’t mind – similar story is experienced by many time and time again and underlying psychology of it is very universal. Here it goes:
Her concern was that on multiple, regular occasions when she brings coffee to her co-workers – there is very little gratitude… And what even more bothersome from her point of view – is that people don’t respond, don’t perform similar acts of kindness and care… even occasionally.
I answer to that with the following: there is very little difference between not giving and giving with expectation in return. Giving and expecting something in return is more like a sale – let’s open shops then and sale hugs! 
…In even “worse” cases – giving and expecting something in return is almost like a black-mailing: “here, I love you – now your turn, you HAVE to love me back!”
- Of course, I exaggerate… Still, if you think about it for a min – you see clearly what I mean and you would understand how important and difficult the issue is. The whole concept of Karma Yoga is built around acts without expectations. What we discussing here is just a single example… Generalize it, try to apply it – and whole life would change! Life with expectations is bound to be full of disappointment and misery… Life without (or with little) expectations – is full of good surprises!
It’s nice to meet in life people who share their love and positivity with us (there are plenty people in our life like this)! – It’s also good to keep in mind that nobody “have to” give us anything… they do – because they have extra! And we share – because we ourselves generating more compassion than we need for ourselves.
What about massage we started with? – Simple! Thing I don’t think about when I give my wife almost daily massages – is that I would love to get massage myself at least sometimes… Sure, if I get one – I love it! And why I remember about it if “I don’t think about it”? – Because I needed an example when I was talking with that person with whom we share Yoga practice, and because I just gave another massage and thought I would share these ideas with you.
What is your lesson of giving? – You are welcome to share one in the comments – or post your own post in this blog – registration and participation is free and everyone is welcome! – This is a Yoga Community Blog.
Have a great day!
Namaste
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